What Nat noticed!

Nat and I love to go play in the pool. My aunt has one and she lives right next door. There's not alot we can do right now because Nat can't get her ears wet because of tubes put in her ears. Often times we will take this tiem to discuss important things and I will try to give Nat information that I think will be important to her later as she grows up. Sometimes Nat will talk about things bothering her or questions she has or just share some of her feelings. She said that her best friend often feels unloved by her parents and she could see why. I asked her why and she said "Well it's like when I am over there visiting her parents stay in their room and watch tv or they get on the computer. (Incidentally Nat is not home right now that is why I am on the computer) She said they only come around when it is is time to eat and then they just fix us a sandwich or something easy like chips and cookies from a bag. I said well isn't that what happens at Ma's too (Teresa now lives with her parents). She said yes and there's no love in throwing together a sandwich. It's like Mary (my aunt that lives next door with the pool) She microwaves everything to get it done quick, but you Daddy you cook everything the hard way from scratch like mashed potatoes and pancakes and two hour made in the stove baked potatoes. So they taste like love.
I knew I did those things because I wanted to do my very best for my child so that when she is grown I would have no regrets, but I never thought ti would make er feel special or more loved than other children or that she would realize it at such a young age!
Always Always Always do your best for your children. They will feel the love come through or the lack thereof. Nat's friend is starting to resent her parents and feel unloved where do you think that will lead? No where you want to go with your kids right?!?

Important Lesson A Must Read!!!

There is no greaster bond than that of a parent and a child!!!

Important Lesson A Must Read!!!!!!

Natalie and I are having a blast!!! I am on the computer today because Natalie isn't home. She wants my undivided attention and I want her to have it. We have been to a Reds game, the movies, cayaking in an inflatable raft! and laughed till we nearly pee our pants!! We have stayed up late and slept till 2 in the afternoon and we have enjoyed what Nat calls the big suppers! She is my focus and even though I am not always hers I realize that is the way it is supposed to be. I heard something in a movie once when I was a child and I wished my mother believed that way and I decided I would. I want to share it with you now. There was this woman who went through a divorce and had started to date and this was causing her son a lot of pain. A very wise lady spoke to her about her son's happiness and she replied what about my happiness. The wise lady told her now listen close

Your happiness can never be as important to you as his until he grows to become a man


And that's the truth people your kids come before you so what you do is you let your happiness come from seeing them happy. Enjoy them put them first, they will be such wonderful kids never causing you problems and they will excel in what they do giving you great pride!!! You will have plenty of time for foolishness when they are grown, put everything you have in your kids!! They are the ones who will be there for you when you are on your death bed!

Natty's coming home!

Natalie comes home for 5 weeks in the summer and we always have a great time and both of us change greatly in those 5 weeks! I wonder what this year hold for us?

Don't let this be you!

Do you need a SuperNanny?

Have you seen this show Super Nanny? It is absolutely crazy! The parents on these shows if you'll notice all have a very common characteristic. They are totally oblivious to the job of parenting. Now I know folks believe me I know that parenting can be a confusing job,but here is something every parent should know with out being told! But just in case here goes "You got to mean what you say" sound simple enough right? The good news is that it is simple very simple yet so many parents today have no idea of it's importance. I have seen parents tell a child to stop doing something 15 or 20 times and when the child doesn't stop finally when they finally have become so flustered they decide to actually focus on the child, then they blow up and yell and scream and perhaps even hit the child. When if they had told the child once and then dealt appropriately with it then they could've saved them and the child a whole lot of grief anxiety, frustration and hurt feelings. When feelings get hurt between you and your child sometimes that forms a gap that no bridge will ever cover, remembe every second counts, put your focus on your child!

Try This!

I heard an amazing statistic a few years ago, about Jewish people and jail. Did you know that the percentage of Jewish men in jail is extremely low less than 1 percent! I believe the reason for this is because in the Jewish culture father's give their children blessings. No not permission to get married or anything. Actual blessings that they pray over their children. I believe there is huge power in prayer and what better object for prayer than our children.Proverbs 18:21 tells us that "Death and Life are in the Power of the Tongue" Words carry a great deal of weight and we need to realize this!Pray over and for your children every day.Natalie will even ask ro make sure I don't forget at night. I can tell it makes her feel safe and loved and it gives her greater faith in her own life that God is walking with her. All I can say is Try This I know you will never regret it!